Where Do You Find Your Value and Worth?
There are many different ways we try to find our self-worth and value in our lives. We also try to gain self-worth and value from perfectionism, but when we do it is not always in the good way. Perfectionism comes with a lot of self-criticism and can transfer to how we experience our partners.
Financial Stress in Relationships
When partners discuss budgeting and finances regularly they are setting a routine of coming together and showing each other that they are invested in one another. It goes so much farther than just money!
Rise out of the ashes!
The mythical phoenix is reborn when it is consumed by fire and rises from the ashes as a new and changed bird. Similarly, there is a species of conifer tree that requires fires to open up the seed pod. Without the fire, that tree will not be able to reproduce. Our experiences can become the fire that consumes us giving birth to something different and beautiful.
Do you thrive in conflict?
One of the best ways to not only survive but thrive in conflict is to grow in resiliency.
A Framework for Relationship Success
The VALUES make up an acronym: Vulnerable, Accountable, Learning, Understanding, Empathy, Shared meaning. These six values are practiced to bring you into the connecting communication where it is possible to build trust, resolve conflict and deepen your intimacy.
The Four Horsemen are destroying your relationship
The communication you engage with your partner either brings connection or conflict. What this means is that when you are communicating with your partner in a healthy connecting communication loop, you are turning toward each other and reinforcing the relationship with your communication. When you are in a conflict communication loop, you are turning away from or often against your partner.
Why you don’t want a conflict free marriage…
The Gottman Institute, out of Seattle, has done a lot of research on this and shown that compatability or having “sameness” doesn’t actually create connection. It is actually the ability to meet your spouse in their difference with understanding and acceptance that creates connection.
